“Two decades before Maya Rudolph and her zany crew brought the laughs in Bridesmaids, I spent a lazy afternoon watching a made-for-television movie of the same name.  Though the specifics are a bit fuzzy now, I recall that the plot centered on a quartet of besties who return home for a friend’s wedding.  Each woman has her own personal dramas going on, but my attention was drawn to a character named Caryl.  She was the single girl of the group.  As soon as her back story revealed that she was driven by her career, hence not obsessed with landing a husband, I thought, I know her.  That’s going to be me.”

excerpt from the essay, In My Time, On My Terms 

About a year and a half ago, my colleague, Gil Robertson, approached me about writing a few words for his upcoming book.  I immediately said, “Yes!”  Having contributed to two of his previous literary projects, I was thrilled to be asked back to the party.  Then I paused for a sec and said, “Okay, so tell me about the book…” 

In short, he was in the early stages of gathering stories for an anthology that he would later entitle, Where Did Our Love Go: Love and Relationships in the African-American Community.  His mission was to explore what love means to Black men and women, today.  Oh, and I should also mention that the book was to be sectioned into three, distinct categories – single, married and divorced.  As I believe that the topic of relationships is always worthy of an open and honest dialogue, I happily signed on.
In no time, I had an outline of what I wanted to write.  It was all mapped out – in my head, of course.  That’s around the time that my embarrassingly-lazy, ridiculously-overconfident alter ego was like, “Girl, we got this in the bag, not to worry.”  Ha!  Then reality hit me in the form of, “Oh my, what am I going to write?  So, after a few weeks of drafting, crafting, editing, scrapping and rewriting – whew! – I finally got the words on paper (well, onto the computer screen, actually!).  The result is my essay, In My Time, On My Terms, excerpted above.  
I’m excited to announce that the book was released yesterday, just in time for Valentine’s Day 2013!  Because I was too anxious to wait for my copies to arrive from the publisher, I logged onto Amazon.comand ordered one ahead of time.  I’m so glad that I did.  Along with my essay, there are words from a number of folks with recognizable names and relatable stories. You might even recognize yourself on one of the 240 pages. The book will surely spark a conversation about relationships.  It might also make you ponder the question, as the title suggest, where did our love go…and how do we get it back? 
All that said, I encourage you to pick up a copy, take a look around.  I’d love to hear your thoughts, too!  Until then, happy reading (and happy loving!), my friends.


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